THE GREAT

Illusion is that life could get more wonderful than it already is..

MESSAGE JUST IN

this is actually for a struggling Husband about his Wife

Wife :

Intelligent, streetwise, doing things her own way no matter the criticisms,

she looks after herself, there may be a hint of DUALITY

nocturnal, fearful, tired, traumatized, still waters run deep

Husband:

Feelings of confinement, lack of stability, detention, physical restraint, firmness, and your life may revolve around her

Space and equal amounts of communication

being absurdly honest with each other is a must

beware of fear

absurd honesty keeps each of you from keeping anything bottled

you must love each other enough to be respectful, loving. and honest

'NO HOLDS BARRED' approach, and yes, this can be done with respect and love

at the end of this experience, however long it takes, you will each be lighter

you will be clearer to each other about your individual needs, wants, desires

you will be healthier and carry this practice as a way to better communicate with each other

which will also give you better relationships with others in your life

pay it forward and everyone will be able to communicate on a healthier level with each other

The great illusion is that life could get more wonderful than it already is

how in this circumstance?

because you are both trying

because there is a glimmer of love, or more so, to want to try

and if it must come to an end

because of this particular practice you will have graduated to being a better communicator

relationships need communication

the better the skills, the healthier, the better the relationship

ACTION

you each gather your thoughts stay focused on one, one gripe, one topic

then have a conversation, timed for each, to be fully heard, to absorb

then you break for space, to consider the other's point of view

then another conversation to clarify, discuss, ask any lingering questions

then space

you decide the timing for the discussion and also for space

this way, there is a dedicated time to be heard, to think, to clarify if there's any confusion, misunderstandings, for questions (only on the same topic or gripe)

then work out a plan for the compromise

STICK TO THE ABOVE 'SCHEDULE'

then and only then

if both of you are truly satisfied

Then move on to the next topic, or gripe

In this way you can tackle EACH and EVERY issue, on your own time

there's no race

if there is a glimmer of love there for each of you, you can do this

you just have to both want to

here's the rub, if you both feel that this plan is coming in too late for you to do on your own, I am here for you both

You can do the very same above, or individually, with a 3rd neutral party

It is so important not to give up until you have exhausted all

seeking outside neutral help is the first recommendation if working through the pains between each other are too stifling

a 3rd independent neutral party may be of more help